Sometimes being over 40 and playing video games can be problematic. At almost 43, I am apparently an old fart. I’m old fashioned, you see. When I enter a room to work with other people, I acknowledge them and, at the very least, say, “Hello!” So when I enter a dungeon with 3 to 7 random strangers, I greet them and expect them to greet me in return. However, this basic common courtesy is the exception and not the norm, and quite frankly, it REALLY pisses me off.

I don’t give a shit if you don’t speak a single word for the rest of the dungeon. At least say, “hi,” for fuck’s sake. And don’t give me the bullshit excuse about not having a keyboard. The word, “hi,” is two letters. You can use your controller for that or you can even make a macro that says hi in the chat channel.

Online video games, particularly cooperative ones, rely on people working together. Common courtesy and communication are vital for a team to be successful in any endeavor, whether in game or in real life.

So if you can’t even say hello at the start of a dungeon, you’re both lazy and disrespectful. You disrespect me and I’ll disrespect you right back. I know you’re in a rush and you want to get the damned thing over with as soon as humanly possible. I do, too! But you know what? I’m going to take my time. It’s a game, after all. Why should I hurry? You can run ahead, if you like, but I’m not going to save your ass. Why should I? You didn’t even acknowledge me when I walked in the room. As far as I’m concerned, I’m not even sure if you know I’m here. You can kick me out of the dungeon, too, if you want. No problem. I’m a tank. I don’t have to wait for queues. Ever. I’ll just get another group.



I’d hate to see what kind of person you are outside of the game. Do you even have a job? Or friends? If you’re like that in real life, I can guarantee that no one is going to want to be around you. People will rightly label you an asshole.

Respect is earned.



A Quick Update


I’m really having a rough time finding a balance between work, school, and my free time. Honestly, I think the problem is that I don’t really have any free time right now. However, my video games and my Twitch channel are really important to me, so I’m determined to MAKE time for them. I am going to have to start small, so for now, I’m going to commit to streamingĀ once a week. I’ve updated my schedule page to reflect this. I’ve put “Maybe?” on Sundays because I’d really like to do more, but I can’t promise anything right now.

Between work, school, and the state of this country, I always feel so exhausted. It should come as no surpriseĀ that since I’m a non-white feminist, I am absolutely disgusted with the goings-on in the White House right now. So I need my virtual worlds where my actions affect the outcomes because I sure as hell feel pretty damned helpless right now.

Tonight I’ll be playing FFXIV. The Mhachi raids are on the agenda and anything else I can fit in before I have to go to sleep. I finally got MNK to 60, so now I’m working on SMN/SCH. My goal is to have everything at 60 by the time the Stormblood expansion releases. I’m at 16/23, so we’ll see how that goes…